We are still surprised that our new reality involves reading a guide on how to maintain a healthy relationship during a pandemic. But the world approach quarantine restrictions for a month, it is more necessary than ever. Whether a couple spends too much time together or not enough, COVID-19 has thrown away all of our usual patterns of relationship. Old problems may find new ways to present themselves. And things that we never thought of suddenly need to be sorted out.
And yet, this strange time also gives us the unique possibility to grow together and become stronger. Whether you’re a new couple, you’ve got a bunch of celebrated wedding anniversaries, or you haven’t figured out what your label is, there are troubleshooting techniques that will help any relationship.
Keep positivity into your relationship:
Don’t let your relationship be dominated by distress. Of course, it’s all right to lean on one another. One of the benefits of a loving relationship is the refuge that it provides, the comfort it brings. We can rely on that acceptance when we’re stressed.
We know that when our anxious, combative, shut-down, or over-functioning self comes out without consent, our partner is going to roll with it for a while. We can’t let our disturbed standard characteristics take over without giving our partners some positive feedback. While it’s difficult at first, this kind of happiness doesn’t have to be made or fake. It builds on itself, making it much easier for both of you.
An expression of love and goodwill:
During tough times, the easiest thing you can do is show your partner that you love them. But sometimes this isn’t that easy. We have to find ways of showing that we love and understand them. The secret to getting it right is to figure out the different love languages for you and your partner. For example, helping with household stuff, acknowledging, physical touch, and homemade gifts.
Say “NO” to stressful conversations:
All couples have “unresolvable issues.” These issues make each other learn how to manage to agree if we stay together. With a lot of time around each other right now, there aren’t as many natural breaks from each other. Sometimes a small disagreement leads to a huge fight, instead share your perspectives, give each a turn to talk, and validate. Validation does not mean that you’ll have to agree with the other, but that you understand their viewpoint. Look for ways to cheer and little compromise. These are your escapes from the deadlock.
Giving Space:
Although true for all couples, this one is particularly important for all of you in lockdown together. Remember the early days of relationships and infatuation, wanted to be around your partner as much as possible? Your hormones provide a constant dose of a happy booster. You must continue to follow your interests and encourage your partner to do the same, even if it is in the same room.
Plan dates at home:
Every couple needs something new. Hence, we go on dates, take a break from our routines and focus on one another. Sadly, we cannot go out due to coronavirus. Plan a candle light dinner on terrace, get dressed up and have dinner and drinks. Watch a movie together or virtually tour the famous site together. Spice up your weekends or days off work and do something different. The key here is to prioritize this time of dating. As days flow together and with this feeling of being always available, it’s easy to get away from each other. Plan a date for your partner at home and never let the spark go away.I hope this may help you survive the quarantine and create a much stronger bond.